You know when you have those conversations with your friends about how annoying it is that your husband leaves his socks all over the bedroom floor? Or how he simply can't take the extra ounce of effort to move the dirty fork from the counter to the dishwasher? Or how about when he needs reminding every single week when it is trash day, though it has been Tuesday and Friday for all of eternity? Sound familiar? I know, I can completely relate...to your husband.
Which is why, I believe, most weekends you will find my husband-wife dusting the house, cleaning the bathroom, replacing the air fresheners and doing yard work. He also used to cook all our meals until our work schedules changed, I was home hours before him and was forced to learn how to cook. My dear husband-wife took me under his wing and showed me the way. At first I wouldn't contribute much to our household, because as most of the husbands out there know, any time I tried to do something around the house, I "didn't do it right" or I didn't do it quick enough and eventually he would just end up doing it for me.
I am proud to report that, thanks mostly to my husband, I now know how to make the bed, clean up after a meal, pick up my clothes and pay attention to things like trash days. If it wasn't for him I probably would never have figured out a way to channel all my love for structure into something beyond coloring squares on graph paper. That being said, we will always have slightly skewed roles from the norm in our household. For example, we will always do our own laundry because he is admittedly afraid I'll ruin his clothes. He will always do the dusting because the messy child in me still doesn't see and/or isn't bothered by dust. I organize, he cleans.
Even though I've often felt like a slacker compared to my energizer bunny of a husband, I love the standards we are setting for our daughters. My husband is one of the most engaged and helpful spouses and dads I know. And I like to think that because of this, our daughter's expectations of the partners they seek out later in life will be effected. They will look for someone to support them and share life's workload, instead of falling into the stereotypical roles of the "caregiver wife" and the "financially providing husband". Not that there is anything wrong with having these roles, it just shouldn't be the role you are forced into based on your gender. And I'll tell you what, this unconventional wife could not be happier that she found her fantastically unconventional husband.
I'm sure I'm not the only wife-husband out there. Have the traditional roles in your family been tossed on their head? I'd love to hear your story.